I had a solid, well paying job. I had a close relationship with my family and a close group of friends. I would go out and socialise, spend time at home, and all in all things were fairly stable. There were moments and events that occurred growing up that were painful or scary. But I didn’t experience anything like some of the trauma that other people have experienced. When I was in need I could rely on my parents to be there to help, and I had a clear career progression that would keep me busy up until my 65th birthday.

Everything was kind of… okay.

Behind the scenes there were areas and aspects of my mental life I was unhappy with. I had been single for pretty much my entire life; I struggled with self-esteem in a lot of areas. I didn’t have the confidence to express myself clearly. I was worried what people would think of me. I had a major fear of rejection that stopped me from putting myself out there. I was afraid of failing. I would compare myself to others and beat myself up for being less than or not good enough.

I did not like the way my body looked or felt. I would chastise myself for some of the traits and body parts I disliked. I would look out enviously at all the ‘other people’ who had what I wanted. If I was around someone with authority or a high level of ability I would go so quiet and lose my personality. It was so frustrating. I was intimidated by powerful people. I decided it was time to change.

Through a recommendation and some research I booked a coaching session. Those 60 minutes changed my life.

In the short term the experience was incredible because it solved an issue I had been struggling, worrying about and criticising myself about for years. In the longer term the coaching sessions gave me a glimpse of the power of the mind. It showed me that with skilled guidance and teaching, we had an incredible resource at our disposal; capable of changing lives in such a short space of time. I couldn’t believe people would spend years in therapy or counselling. Why were so few working with the subconscious mind?! It didn’t make any sense to me. The one thing that was clear for me however was my next objective.

My total focus became “How can I learn to master this?”

I eagerly set out on a journey to learn as much as I could about how the mind works. I completed courses, received 1-2-1 coaching, studied, attended more courses, and received more coaching.

After 4 years I had experienced more transformations that I can remember. My life was completely different and I was so grateful for the changes.

The main challenge I faced next was I became dependent on booking coaching sessions to get me through problems. Whenever something challenging arose I would call a friend, book in a session, and work through it. As I reflected on my journey I began to wonder what it would look like if I could create my own system. I wanted to create a system that had a range of tools to empower me to manage my own emotions. A system that would put me in control of how I think and feel. But I wanted more. I also wanted a system that would strategically and methodically help me progress my confidence and performance.

I wanted a system that could transform negative emotions and consistently create empowering ones. I conducted more research, did more study, hired some incredible mentors, tested out tactics; keeping what worked and discarding what didn’t. After a few months my 6 step system was born.

I now use my 6 step system to nurture feelings of inspiration, gratitude and enthusiasm every day in myself and my clients. I have tools to strategically build and progress confidence and clear out past emotions and blocks that get in the way. I have a focused, clear direction to move forward and a structure to keep me on track to achieve my goals.

I am confident that I have the skills and capabilities to balance my emotions, to stay grounded and centred. I would love to share with you my 6 step system and help put you back in the driver’s seat of your life.